GENEROSITY BURNOUT;

Have you ever felt exhaustion of giving too much? Have you ever worked too much when you COULD spend time with your friends or family? Have you not taken care of yourself despite of available time because you wanted to go 'an extra mile'.
You might be suffering from something known as 'Generosity burnout' (also known as 'Collaborative overload').
This idea, coined by two Wharton professors Adam Grant and Reb Rebele, refers to a state of emotional exhaustion that comes from giving too much. They show that having too many commitments to others can have detrimental effects on your work and personal life.
It can affect your occupational life, personal life, social life and your overall performance and it can bring your morale down. It may become burnt out by the constant demands and feel you are being pulled in too many directions at once. You may start to resent your co worker's demands and expectations, especially when you have a problem of not been able to say "NO". You may feel you are too busy and fulfilling everyone's needs that you do not have time for yourself. Also, other co-workers or team members or even your friends may start taking advantage of you and be dependent on you that you stop complaining and keep fulfilling their demands. There are four personality types in generosity spectrum :
TAKERS: This person sees every opportunity to advance their own interest. They will feel as if they are entitled to your help and will feel little guilt of imposing your time. 
MATCHERS: A match takes but also gives back. They protect their time carefully. 
SELF PROTECTIVE GIVERS: This person is generous but will evaluate the cost and impact of their generosity, both on them and person they're helping.
SELFLESS GIVERS: This is essentially the extra miler. They have high concern for others and they are selfless. They have high concern for others but low concern for themselves. They ignore their own needs and end up exhausting themselves.

How to avoid Generosity burn out?
Here are few self help tips:

1. 50-50
Sometimes we tend to give more and expect less from others to avoid disappointment. But we forget while giving that you can not pour from an empty glass. First take care of yourself then give others. Give 50% and take 50%. Make it a rule in your life and see your mental health getting better.

2. MAKE TIME FOR YOUR SELF.
While focusing on your chores, do not forget to make time for yourself. You should be your first priority. Even for an hour out of your schedule to do what you love. Everyday take 1 hour for your ME TIME. Spend time with your family on your weekends instead of working "extra".

3. LEARN TO SAY "NO"
This what most of us struggle to do. We can't say NO. "Can I borrow your clothes?" Yes. "Can you please do my homework" Um Yes. "Can you please come to my home, study later" YES! 
Even when we eagerly want to say NO we say YES because that is socially acceptable word. Do not be a YES MAN! Start saying NO, and see wonders happening in your life. With that small initial guilt feeling you will a lot of self confidence.

4. SET BOUNDARIES FOR YOURSELF
When you're a giver, you accept all the comments be it hateful , rude or mean. Our self esteem become so low that we start seeking validation and acceptance from everyone what we should seek from ourselves. Setting boundaries to we should accept and what we should deny would really make a huge difference in our lives. Do not accept what you did not like. If someone is rude, tell them they're rude. You throw the stone in the ocean, but you dont now how deep it goes. Speak up for yourself.

5. BE A SMART GIVER
Our work-life balance is one of the biggest things that we risk when we suffer from generosity burnout. So, it's important that we use our time and energy in a smart way, to ensure that we remain productive at work while safeguarding our home life. You need to focus on your family and personal life while working hard too. Try to balance it by doing the work which is necessary and not going 'an extra mile'.