Healing yourself

We all go through rough times. As we grow older, the damage inside us stays there and haunts us later. We can not be truly happy or achieve the sense of gratification in life because we are too damaged.
Now, being damaged is not a bad thing. Damage makes us stronger and a survivor. But how can we heal ourselves? Here, i am not only talking about healing of a mentally ill individual but also a damaged person who has been facing difficulties in finding happiness. Now i would be sharing some things to apply in life or exercises.

1. Expectations 
We all are aware of the popular saying 'Expectations lead to disappointments' , but is it possible to not expect anything at all? No, it is not.
All i want to say is, expect less from others and more from yourself. When you are going through your worst phase, do not expect others to come and heal you. Be broke, be vulnerable and and then, help yourself.


2. Let it feel
We often restrict our feelings and pain. We often hide the pain and we fear expressing it. We keep it inside us assuming it would just disappear. But, it stays.
Feel the amount of pain you have. Cry it out. Be vulnerable. Express your emotions. And most importantly, share it. Share your feelings with any person you trust the most. Just say it. Believe me, sharing makes one feel much better.


3. Writing it down
When ever you have a mental breakdown and you have negative or morbid thoughts , take a piece of paper and write it all down. After few hours, read it. Read all the thoughts you were having after the mental breakdown. Ask yourself, 'was it worth it?'
'Is it rational?' 'Do i still believe it is true?'

Write down your feelings. Start writing a diary. It would help you in not bottling up the thoughts or feelings.


4. State Of Appreciation (task)
You must set up an attitude that will last through the whole day. If you won't spare an hour to vastly improve the quality of your life, then at least create half that time. Even fifteen minutes if you must.
• Create an appreciation list. Whenever you wake up, this is the first thing you are supposed to do. If you believe in god, then say it to him otherwise just say it to something higher than yourself.
•Firstly, say thank you to yourself for all the positive qualities you possess.
EG : Thankyou for being a loving person, thank you for the power that reign within me,thank you for being respectful and for being kind hearted.
•Then, Thank you for the hands i have to write with, thank you for the legs i have to walk with, thank you for the beautiful world and the energy that flows through it; but above all, thank you for me still breathing and giving me the opportunity of life, to persist again and again, when so many others have gone before me.
- We have been given so many gifts that we should value above all else but deliberately ignore then on a daily basis. (Would you exchange your arm with 10 million dollars?)
•Next i would be thankful for the things that are outside of me. Thankyou for the food i have to eat;thank you for the shelter;for clothes. Thankyou for having a loving family and friends;thank you for the experiences i have had as they have allowed me to grow and make everlasting change.

Say this on waking up for 3 days and see the difference in your state of mind! Do not cheat yourself, give it a try and do it with your will.


5. Let go of your traumatic memories
We all have few memories of our past that haunts us. We have that whole picture in our mind. Exactly how the event happened. You need to get rid of it because this is the trigger/root of your negative emotions.
•Close your eyes, imagine you in the situation. Imagine it from starting. Exactly how it happened. You're there. Its the same place and people. Feel the pain you felt.
After the event ends. Repeat it, see the whole thing again, feel it again.
Then imagine same thing turning into black and white. It is happing but in black and white.
Imagine yourself at the starting of the situation and stay there. See the situation from there, dont move forward. It is all all happening in front of you. You can see yourself in there. It is all black and white. Now hear a cartoon music and imagine all the people turning into cartoons! And then the whole scenario is moving away from you. And soo far you can not even see it. Now it is colourful. Then open your eyes.
Do this thing, and i promise you'd feel better about the traumatic memory.


6. People around you
People you hang out with matters alot. Surround yourself with positive people. The people who makes you wanna live longer. The people who reminds you your worth. We all have toxic friends and people around us, but dont let it affect you. Choose the people who fill you with life. Prioritize yourself over others.


7. Avoiding your outburst
Few of us having anger issues or are short tempered. We often say things in rage and regret it later. Here is a small trick to avoid your outburst.
When ever you are angry and wanna say things , breathe in from one nostril and breathe out from the other. Do it till the moment you feel calm.
Human brain can focus on only one activity that time, focus on breathing. It would relax you a bit and help you avoid saying anything negative.


☆These points are something that have helped me and few others I know. I am sharing these to help others too. God bless you all and sending alot of positive vibes through screen! :))